Salisbury musician urges men to open up after miscarriage trauma
Local band 'Love is Enough' have released a single to raise awareness
A Salisbury-based musician is urging men to be more open following miscarriage trauma.
Singer for local band, Love is Enough, Cameron Walker says men can be their own worst enemies, having been through the tragedy of losing a baby.
He and his wife Nicole lost a baby in 2021, and his band have now released a single to increase awareness and help raise funds for miscarriage charity, The Miscarriage Association.
The song is called ‘1 in 4’ as that’s the number of pregnancies that end in a miscarriage.
‘We just went home’
Speaking to Greatest Hits Radio, Cameron said there was little support available for he and his wife in 2021.
“I think she was given a leaflet, but that was it. And then there was no more contact. There was no more help. There was no more support and we were we were very much alone,” he said.
Cameron added: “It would have been nice to have some sort of some more support, more contact, more follow-ups, more meetings just to help you through this process.
“We didn't know what to do and we literally just went home.”
While wife Nicole got some time away from work to begin the grieving process, Cameron headed straight back to work.
A taboo subject
Mental health is a something of a taboo subject, Cameron told us, although it’s coming to fore more often now.
“We don't really help ourselves,” he said, “It would be nice to be reached out to.
“Even if there were meetings or if there were other dads that have been through this.”
And while mothers have to deal with the turmoil of losing a baby, Cameron says dads suffer too.
“The men are going for it with them and we have to not only try and support them, but try and be positive and try and find a future path which is at the time really, really difficult to try and find.”
Bringing light to a terrible situation
For Cameron, he said he was able to ‘hide behind’ his music, allowing it to be his outlet for his emotions, culminating in the song.
He says he hopes it helps bring some light to anyone else in the same situation he found himself in.
“It's a hopeful song,” he told us, “It's a song full of emotions. And if someone out there is going through what we went through at the moment, they can listen to this song and it can hopefully bring some light to such a terrible situation.”
For Cameron and Nicole, there is a happy ending to this story. Nicole became pregnant again and despite many worries, Cameron and Nicole welcomed their son, Atticus, in 2022.