'Monitor your baby's movements' when pregnant, urges Stamford mum

Every day, across the UK, 13 babies are lost during pregnancy, or in the first moments of life

Author: Ellis MaddisonPublished 12th Oct 2022

A Stamford mum who lost her baby when she was 38 weeks pregnant wants more parents to know the possible signs of still birth.

Mum-of-three Frankie Brunker lost her first baby Esme when she was stillborn in 2013, after she'd noticed her movements slowing down and eventually stopping.

She wants the focus of this baby loss awareness week to be encouraging more conversation around stories like hers, so more parents understand what to look out for:

Frankie Brunker with her children Esme, Jago (8) and Ayla (6)

'It was only when I'd realised her movements had slowed down and stopped that I went to the hospital, and that's when we found out she'd died. I feel a lot of guilt. If I'd have gone to hospital sooner, if I'd noticed her movements had changed earlier, could she have been saved?'

Frankie added: I had no idea that you could go through a pregnancy with no problems, everything seeming fine, your baby being perfectly healthy, and then they could still die.'

'We shouldn't have to feel the guilt'

Frankie wants to open up more conversation around stories like hers, so more mothers can feel comfortable sharing their experiences with baby loss - and so more awareness can be raised around how to look out for the signs of stillbirth.

'We shouldn't have to feel the guilt and the shame surrounding it, and we should feel open to share the story of all of our children.'

'When I've shared my story, people have commended me for being brave. I wish that wasn't the case. I wish it could be more normalised to talk about these things.'

'I'm a proud mother of three, and I always include Esme in my children count, even though she's not here with us. It's the reactions of other people that make me fearful of sharing her story, so if wider society could become more open to hearing our stories, to listening to us, that would be wonderful.'

For more information on stillbirth, and how to look out for possible causes, visit the NHS website here.

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